Hi, I've noticed you around...

Good afternoon ladies and gentle readers, after a read of Katy Reds recent blog (All Sweetness and Life - all the cool kids are reading it!) it prompted me to make a comment on twitter which lead to me deciding to do a blog about my dating life. You have been warned - you read on at your own risk...

Like most people I have dating profiles on line and this is how I meet most of the people I go out with. Being trans, most people who seem interested in me are men, who I'm not attracted to. Nothing personal to the men's I'm just not into you - although saying this doesn't appear to stop them offering to be the one who can 'convert me' or 'change my mind.' I have a nice little ' No Men' sticker on my profiles which is right at the top where they can see it. So in short anyone who might be interested in my pic and clicks on my profile knows who I'm into and not into.

Two years ago I got a message from someone called 'Julie' who after a few days worth of messages we decided to go out for a date. We'd meet in Cardiff on a Friday evening for a drink to see if we clicked and take things from there. Friday arrived and I caught the train to Cardiff, adding a few last minute touches along the way (note for future reference do not do your eye liner on public transport again). We were meant to meet outside of the entrance facing Margaret Street, after a five minute wait I gave her a ring to see if she was running late. She replied saying she was in the car park and could I make my way over to her, my alarm bells should have been ringing at this point but I gave her the benefit of the doubt - she may have wanted to try a bar on the bay and the car park was in that direction. I eventually found her car and got inside, on seeing her she was distinctly more mature than her picture suggested - I later found out the picture was from 1994, the first of many lies...

We drove off and after a few minutes of heading in an unfamiliar direction I asked where we were going. 'Home' she replied, OK - not what I expected but a few drinks and what not. During the car trip home she didn't speak much bar asking questions about me and answering little about herself. We pulled into her drive, on entering her house I noticed the front room light was on and asked who it was 'my husband Gordon was the reply.'

This was not what I'd signed up for...

She then asked if I wouldn't mind going upstairs as 'my makeup needed touching up' and that Gordon 'doesn't like it when the illusion is spoiled.' I headed to bathroom because understandably 'I needed to go.' After steadying myself, I decided I was in no harm and if worst came to the worst I'd leg it out of the door. I went down to the living room and was greeted by Julie who I now noticed in the light was wearing a leather dress and Gordon who not only was a good 20/25 years older than Julie but was wearing nothing but leather shorts. To sum up my date was a honey trap set up by some geriatric kinksters. It turned out that my conversations on line with Julie had really been with Gordon who was a trans admirer, Julie apparently wasn't really into me and spent the conversation glaring at me - this apparently was something she put up with for the sake of her marriage.

I politely asked for them to call me a taxi and was out of there ten minutes later I was out of there and have never looked back. I think you'll agree readers that this is one from the nightmare files.

Why I hate Sam Allardyce

Because the man and his football are boring beyond belief.

The DVD Archives: Star Trek Voyager Season 1

Good afternoon ladies and gentle readers, in my random DVD viewings I ventured onto season 1 of the Star Trek spin off Voyager season 1. So without further ado here's my opinion of the individual episodes:

Caretaker: A good start with a story which introduces the characters, the ship and the situation with ships in a certain section of space being randomly pulled across to the other side of the universe against their will. A really good point is that this actual event is dangerous and a good few members of the crew who loom like they are being set up and introduced as regulars are killed twenty minutes into the first episode. The main characters introduction is staggered throughout the two episodes with a few swerves thrown in. The end situation with two crews thrown together to pilot an undermanned star ship is possibly the most intriguing of any Star Trek pilot. 6/10.

Paralax: A very good episode showing the two crews aren't quite getting along and choosing Torres to get the first character centric episode is a good way to bring in the supporting cast and give a good share of the action to Chakotay and Janeway. Also a very good situation for the episode. 8/10.

Time and Again: Tepid timey wimey rubbish. 0/10

Phage: A brilliant alien race, a fantastic plot and an absorbing episode. 10/10.

The Cloud: A proper good one off nail the story to the plot episode. 8/10.

Eye of the Needle: A good little character episode with a few intriguing twists. 7/10.

Ex Post Facto: A good little whodunit and an interesting take on first contact with a new species. 6/10.

Emanations: Dull but worthy, Kim is a decent supporting character but his first centric episode doesn't hold my interest. 5/10.

Prime Factors: Good stuff and interesting to see characters entering a situation with no right or wrong and wrestling with their consciouses. 6/10.

State of Flux: A very good episode making full use of a supporting character (up to this point) and placing the rest of the cast in a situation where not everyone can be trusted. 9/10.

Heroes and Villains: Interesting use of the holodeck and nice to see The Doctor get an episode to shine. 9/10.

Cathexis: Absolute fantastic plot with twists and turns, by far one of the best episodes. 10/10.

Faces: Good to see the Vidiians reappear, they are being turned into a big threat to the Voyager crew. Interesting chaarcter examination of Torres by splitting her in two. 8/10.

Jetrel: Possibly one of my favourite episodes of this show, Neelix is a more interesting character and nice to see shades of grey developing for what looked to be a black and white character. 10/10

Learning Curve: Nice to see that some of the crew are having trouble adapting to star fleet rules and a good way of fleshing out some background characters as Tuvok trains them. But it feels out of place, this should have been the 4th or 5th episode and as such it doesn't quite work. 6/10.


A very good first season with a lot of interesting characters and new aliens introduced, only niggle is I'd like to see more edge between the two crews.

Losing Your Mojo

Good afternoon ladies and gentle readers, have you ever lost your mojo?

Your swerve, your swagger, that little bit of x-factor in yourself.

I'm going to let you into a secret readers, you never lost it and its never gone. If you have something to do and find yourself unable to do it, steal yourself get yourself together, remember all the things that make you do those thing you do and go for it a second time.

Thats todays words of wisdom from this blogger and after a few days banging my head against the wall its back into the fight tomorrow.